Valuable Investment: #1 Self Love
Selflove is the best way to invest before high risk and high opportunity investments. because loving yourself is a low risk but high return.
I, you, are part of this spinning earth. We grow, life and meet many things. From time to time we have grown up as a good person in a society. Speaking and listening is part of survival, so there’s what’s called interaction, we’re part of that population.
Perhaps, in this ecosystem we grow with the same diversity but in different ways. How we work, survive or see things around us, from the simplest to the most complex. We always have a free and diverse perspective.
The variables are so diverse, there are lots of manipulations; attitudes, habits, character and even lifestyle. That’s what makes us the same species, but different. We all agree, life is tough and we work on each other. What we talk about affects other individuals or colonies and vice versa. There are standards and traditions.
Sometimes the attachment to culture and norms makes us forget who we are, become somewhat indifferent to ourselves because of the urgency of the other. Pathetic, indeed.
We should continue to develop according to ourselves and only make other variables the basic measure or a benchmark, not the main thing that has the potential to make us lose ourselves.
I can’t imagine how tired we are, every day we work in our own fields, looking for a little excitement, like looking for a needle in a haystack on weekdays, but afterwards it still has to be a container for the aspirations like a mailbox in the front yard of our homes, or grievance centre in city hall of the demands of the people around us. So, we can be accepted according to the criteria of society. How tired we are.
‘You have acne, that’s bad. a woman should be take care of herself’.
'You’re black, you look dirty and unattractive’
'Coming home late is bad, like a bitch. Bad woman/guy'
‘It’s been working for years and you still not get promotion yet?!’
'You should be married at this age!’
‘Not a scholar, and haven’t graduated yet and not working in an office? People will talk. We will be ashamed’.
‘I don’t like women who are too smart and work hard, and independent, they tend to be oppositionists, and arrogant.’
This is just a piece of whole cake, i am quite sure that all of you already knows, everything becomes 'normal' in the environment who normalize taking care of our affairs or our businesses, yep all that they said about us, that seems to be everything about us affects them so much when it’s not. I feel that I am the one who lost, who feels hurt, humiliated and less than perfect after hearing these words, while they will be looking for a topic to bring up tomorrow under the context of ’advice’. Fuck it, I don’t need your opinion which sounds like insults or scolds.
I had to be accepted by society as a whole, for that acceptance I had to pay dearly to be part of that environment (the most expensive transaction), the worst was to lose myself. Because sometimes their response and reaction is a grid of what steps I will take next.
And you?
What they say will be considered and count. We’re on opera stage, being the artificial roles they ask us to be. Into another form with a layered mask that can be changed as requested. Slavery, in another word.
A friend of mine asked me. Are you satisfied? Or do they satisfy you? You become perfect without feeling perfect and perfected and then created to another dissatisfaction. Forget that you are a subject, born and dying alone. But you don’t find the essence of life as your whole and true. Love yourself, so that your feelings are perfect and you feel sufficient and contented. That would be a blank cheque that you give to someone, but you don’t even have the money. Be rich first!
Invest in yourself, this is how to have valuable investment;
1. Stop being what people want you to be, there are 8.05 billion people on this earth, you can’t fulfill all their expectations.
2. You’re perfect no matter what and you’re good enough, you black, you white, you small or tall. It’s God’s gift, you should be grateful for that.
3. Learn, find out your abilities and improve your knowledge, intelligence and abilities will not betray you, they’re not cheating.
4. Hang out with people who support you, stay away from toxic environments. Surround yourself with supportive environment.
5. Beautify yourself in every way, skin care, make up, study, be productive and making your own money.
6. Set your own boundaries and space for everything so they know what cans and can’ts be done to you.
We are all worth it, God made it so good. Don’t let others make you feel small or contemptible, but don’t be arrogant either. So be classy, good, wise, calm and know that your own self-esteem is a precious investment that no one can take away from you, dearest.
Love you
Your Grace
